Good morning. Happy Sunday. Let’s get right into it. The universal truth for today is about communication. There’s a good chance the beginning of this will sound cringe worthy or cheesy, but hear me out before making any judgements.
I’ve been watching Bigg Boss (the Indian equivalent of Big Brother) with my mom and sister, and I feel like there are things to be learned from watching it. Yes, it’s a reality television game show. Yes, the contestants are acting and not being completely authentic. Yes, the show is for entertainment.
However, it’s a great opportunity to people watch and understand human emotions. I’m interested in learning how humans interact and the emotional intelligence behind it. It’s quite enjoyable to watch the show and have all these ideas pop into my head. Ideas meaning things that we all know, but recognizing it consciously and then thinking about it and how it can be utilized to improve my own life, or myself as a person.
Bigg boss started a week ago, and I don’t always have the time to watch it. My mom and sister keep me updated. I did get the chance to watch it on Friday, and it left me thinking about communication and emotions.
The task given to the contestants on Friday was called “Kadandhu Vandha Padhai” (the path they crossed), and they were asked to talk about their life and experiences. They all spoke of struggles and the pain they had to overcome. Some struggled to make ends meet, some faced abuse as a child, some lost loved ones, etc. At the end of the task, they had to nominate members within themselves for elimination based on the stories shared along with a reason. The common reason among all the nominations was that their respective story wasn’t as sad as the others stories.
Pain is pain. I don’t really think you can compare pain because everyone’s pain threshold is different. We all have different weaknesses that are equally valid. With respect to the episode, losing a loved one and not having enough money to eat – how can these things be compared? They are both painful, and sad.
How did the contestants decide who to nominate for elimination? Who did I feel should be nominated and why?
I felt like the people who had an edge in the task where the people who were able to communicate their pain in a way that connected with the audience. There is such a huge correlation between emotions and communication, a bridge termed as expression.
It’s interesting to understand how one’s pain is validated by how they communicate it. The contestants that didn’t want to cry and skipped over hardships, ended up getting nominated. The contestants that were very expressive and vulnerable with their emotions connected the best with the audience. It was fascinating to think about how other humans can only empathize when emotions are expressed. Seems obvious, but it’s just a weird idea to wrap my head around.
It goes along the lines of when you love someone, but don’t express it; that person isn’t receiving love. Having love inside of you isn’t super useful to the people you love. You have to express it for that love to be valuable.
Emotions are meant to be expressed. Especially if you want other humans to understand how you are feeling. Just something to think about. I was running through my head what I’d have expressed with respect to my life and struggles. Am I communicating my emotions to the people surrounding me, or do I prefer to appear strong and hide them? Where do I draw the line between these two things?
A reality TV show can also be thought provoking?! Haha. I guess. Have an amazing day ahead and thank you for reading and or listening. Follow this blog, like it, leave a comment below, you know what to do – all the social things. It really means a lot to me. Till next time, this is Abirami Vina from Cognition.